Give custom controls passable disabled states

Summary: Fixes T9871. Ref T10004. These won't win any awards but it fixes them being incredibly weird and confusing.

Test Plan:
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• Tried to use controls, got reasonable behavior.
• Used normal controls to make sure I didn't break anything.

Reviewers: chad

Reviewed By: chad

Maniphest Tasks: T9871, T10004

Differential Revision: https://secure.phabricator.com/D14814